There's a word for what happened to you when you became a mother. It's called matrescence. The term was coined by medical anthropologist Dana Raphael in the 1970s and brought into the modern lexicon by clinical practitioners and researchers including Dr. Aurelie Athan and by Dr. Alexandra Sacks — but the experience itself is as old as motherhood.
Matrescence is the developmental passage a woman moves through as she becomes a mother: the simultaneous shedding of an old self and emergence of a new one. It is physical, psychological, hormonal, relational, and spiritual all at once. Your brain literally restructures. Your sense of who you are — your values, your ambitions, your body, your relationships — gets taken apart and reorganized from the inside out. It is as significant a transformation as adolescence. And yet, most women have never heard of it.
Instead, they've spent months or years wondering why they feel so unrecognizable. Why the life they worked so hard to build suddenly fits differently. Why they can't quite locate themselves anymore. That disorientation has a name. And naming it changes everything.
Simply Matrescence™ exists to give you that language, and to provide you a map for journeying your way through matrescence with less overwhelm and more ease. Less stuckness, more flow.
I'm Lauren Smith-Pierson — a certified Matrescence Coach, writer, and mother of two wild girls living in the Pacific Northwest. I work with high-achieving women who feel lost or fundamentally changed after becoming mothers, helping them understand the transition they're in, grieve what needs grieving, and move toward a redefined sense of self with clarity, self-compassion, and ease.
This isn't about getting back to who you were. It's about finally making sense of who you're becoming. Welcome. You're in the right place.
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